Single Mother's Dilemma

Being a single mother is a tough responsibility. By all means, I respect the fact that if I haven’t lived my life this way, then I could not imagine it would be impossible for me to understand what others have been through as a single parent. Or maybe, what could I be without a psychotherapy? When I need it and not have it?



Could you be one of those people who would consider that being a single mother is the toughest job in today's modern society? I have asked a few single moms about their views of their own dilemma's. Most of them have replied the same: considering the fact that their children will never have the chance to cherish the fun and enjoy what having both parents home feels like.

I apologize to inhabit this kind of topic. Single people may have problems but single mom with children has even more. My point is that, I want to acknowledge every determination that confides with this astonishing situation. And not to exclude myself, I want to take responsibility for my role of adding to the list of single mothers. I have four kids with one man, that I became single upon his death. Sometimes I just thought, maybe it's an impression of my children to have that disappointment that their father did not make it this far... And it would be redundant to think that they have been longing and expecting someone to care of them, at least.

I have been a single mom for about 4 1/2 years now. Good thing I did not resort to seek the help of health specialist. I thought it sometimes that it would be good for me to have a psychotherapy. My depression did not progress. I have accepted His will and my fate. I have blamed no one. I have to stand firm that I realized I should be hard to the extent of being a brainy heartless. Walking on the path of no return is what I usually pursue for myself... Well in fact, and I’m thinking and considering this myself, there are those women who become more aggressive dating multiple men due to the fact that most men are unwilling to give their commitment.... A single mother's dilemma? Yes... Why do you think a women should remain faithful and loyal with those kind of people? Should women put all their luck in one man's casket when they are full aware that this man does not want to commit? Should they divert to the proposal of other men to retain their options open?

I have no intention to judge anyone but I am having a hard time considering this one. Let us not add to any obvious and rather unfavorable traits as undesirable human entity if we may consider it that way. Both men and women should be responsible for their own actions. This era has given us the impression that we do not have the same opportunities as other people might be. It would be best to counter this fanciful intimation by giving each other loving and understanding support, especially our children.

The recently demanding change in the society has made me uplift more of my spirit. I realized I have to work harder and continue to compensate further for the sake of my children that they can have a better fighting chance for survival. That, is my legacy to my children.

Accepting Reality | Palo Alto Psychotherapy

Many among us are in difficult situations facing their own dilemna. You may find it unfair what life has bringing you now and fight the current situation which could only lead you to the feeling of distress about your pain.. You must accept the fact how life was given to you. Don't try to exalt or alter the truth in order to please anyone or just to hide the ugly side of the situation. Just let it be, or otherwise, a psychotherapy session could be your possible solution.



I may say, reality is neither bitter nor sympathetic, neither good nor bad. The comparable situation arise from the brain which is responsible for the creation of fancy illusion and awareness. There is dissimilation to every moment in your life. You have to unravel your own obstacle. Everything has that negative and positive opportunity. And above all, you must try to liberate yourself... Heavy burdens were given but a far better future is to be expected. Maybe your way up ahead for something bigger, like career and accomplishment.  

It is believe that personal growth is gain by people who are aware of their situations and accept the pain in them. These people drive themselves forward and this method usually has a positive results. But how does it affect anyone who reacted the other way around? Well, making your current reality negative or wrong produces much of internal pain. You may be capable to have that better qualities in life in which you can be fulfilled or you may be trapped endlessly hunting your dreams and never to achieve any fulfillment at all.

You can see life clearly when you start to accept reality, not pretending it to be good or bad,  you can see those paths mark before us. Yes, we, indeed, have obtacles to overcome. Those trials aren't meant to confuse us but rather, I may say, they are elemental part of humanity which balances life in existence. Life could be easier if you fully accept reality. Our way could be more likely spin like a game. Dissenting and negative approach about difficulties during the play is frivolous and irrational. You could either play it confidently or the other way around. There are challenges easier than we thought but the point is, the bigger the challenges the greater the satisfaction.

I just really wanted to share some of my views in life. I thought that I should need a psychotherapy. But I have experienced much downfall that I have lose balance and falter into the level of consciousness where I lose myself. But after the fall, I don't struggle to get up. After the cry, I get up! I believe that challenges were given to people to achieve higher level of Individuality. And after all, my disposition to further enhance myself no longer comes from the inner sense of vulnerability but my eagerness to scrutinize the truth about my deeper life.