Infidelity

When your partner in life, whether husband or boyfriend, wife or girlfriend  is cheating on you or has cheated on you in the past, I wouldn’t have any apprehension that the first thing to come into your mind is to ask why.

Definitely you’re not alone. The fact is that, this is not an unusual scenario. Many are victims of infidelity and most of them want to know why their spouse or loved ones’ reason for being unfaithful and what persuade them to have an illicit affair.

Knowing the reason or reasons on why your significant other commit such act can help you deal with the situation. It will become your crucial key to making a wise decision about the best possible way to deal with the offender’s infidelity.

In case you decide to rectify with your cheating mate, knowing the reason behind the unfaithful act or betrayal can give you intuition on how to rebuild your relationship and will lessen the chances that the sin be enacted again. However, if you decide to leave your cheating mate, knowing the reason for your significant other’s deceiving act can ease the healing process, and let you move on without letting the impediments from your old relationship influence your future affairs in life.

But let me just say that I am completely pleased with how you feel. You are justified in your feelings and are allow to stagger in them for as long as you deem it crucial or necessary. On the contrary, I would like to suggest that is not the bottomline of anyone’s life and whoever faces the same agony, still, has a choice in this matter. Nobody has the right to judge over your thoughts and feelings. It is the one thing that belongs to you and only you through imperfections. And knowing what is real, I would like to emphasize on the possibility that you are the only one responsible for the way you feel for only you have full control over your own thoughts and feelings. I suggest that you may try to redirect your thoughts and focus into the ones that are more pleasing to you or rather would ease your pain. You’ve got to choose, so better start choosing thoughts that would make you feel good if not completely happy. 

We have full control over every aspect of our lives. Begin to realize the power of your will and start to think your way with your unrealized self-consciousness and much importantly, your freedom.

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Love Still Begins at 40

What could be possibly you're thinking upon reaching the age of forty and still single? Do you think you need love counselling? Do you feel you are too old for a relationship or in case you have, are you capable of maintaining the same? This burden could have been harder on the part of a woman rather than a man.

 

Before, women over 40 were mostly worried about their age. But now, I've seen a different view of the picture. I may say that somehow, there are crowds whom are vulnerable about the topic and are open to the fact that any situation could not be justified through age limits.

 



 

Women at this age primarily will seek for her goal and that is to find a good man to spend the rest of her life with. Texting, sexting and even online dating or speed dating is the name of the game. These are now the present day scenarios of a common love cycle. We, women, must think about because men, our counterpart are using all these means to catch their prey. It's about time, considering our pride and dignity, to do the right moves.. As they are saying, “Sing out loud and dance to the tune of the crowd”.

 

It has been widely accepted and known to all that men love younger women but unlike them, women should avoid younger men. As a woman who wants to be love must first learn how to love herself. Don't let the symptoms of aging ruins your life. Always remember that men fall for looks and beauty. One great beauty can bring one great nation fall. Get back in shape and prove to the world that you are young both in mind and body. It is but rightful for your age that you deserve one great man of your dream.

 

At this point of life, one must realize that today isn't late at all. You must believe that still, this is the right time to find someone to love if you just let it be. Even our failures in the past should have given us the best lessons in life. They have definitely prepared us for a more astonishing, matured and long, lasting relationship. Don't let heartbreak stop you from loving... Finding true love later in life is like a supernatural phenomenon... I, myself, have to prove... Love is lovelier the ___th around? :)

Accepting Reality | Palo Alto Psychotherapy

Many among us are in difficult situations facing their own dilemna. You may find it unfair what life has bringing you now and fight the current situation which could only lead you to the feeling of distress about your pain.. You must accept the fact how life was given to you. Don't try to exalt or alter the truth in order to please anyone or just to hide the ugly side of the situation. Just let it be, or otherwise, a psychotherapy session could be your possible solution.



I may say, reality is neither bitter nor sympathetic, neither good nor bad. The comparable situation arise from the brain which is responsible for the creation of fancy illusion and awareness. There is dissimilation to every moment in your life. You have to unravel your own obstacle. Everything has that negative and positive opportunity. And above all, you must try to liberate yourself... Heavy burdens were given but a far better future is to be expected. Maybe your way up ahead for something bigger, like career and accomplishment.  

It is believe that personal growth is gain by people who are aware of their situations and accept the pain in them. These people drive themselves forward and this method usually has a positive results. But how does it affect anyone who reacted the other way around? Well, making your current reality negative or wrong produces much of internal pain. You may be capable to have that better qualities in life in which you can be fulfilled or you may be trapped endlessly hunting your dreams and never to achieve any fulfillment at all.

You can see life clearly when you start to accept reality, not pretending it to be good or bad,  you can see those paths mark before us. Yes, we, indeed, have obtacles to overcome. Those trials aren't meant to confuse us but rather, I may say, they are elemental part of humanity which balances life in existence. Life could be easier if you fully accept reality. Our way could be more likely spin like a game. Dissenting and negative approach about difficulties during the play is frivolous and irrational. You could either play it confidently or the other way around. There are challenges easier than we thought but the point is, the bigger the challenges the greater the satisfaction.

I just really wanted to share some of my views in life. I thought that I should need a psychotherapy. But I have experienced much downfall that I have lose balance and falter into the level of consciousness where I lose myself. But after the fall, I don't struggle to get up. After the cry, I get up! I believe that challenges were given to people to achieve higher level of Individuality. And after all, my disposition to further enhance myself no longer comes from the inner sense of vulnerability but my eagerness to scrutinize the truth about my deeper life.