Live Your Yes! | Life Coach

A LIFE…

. . . that fires you up and fuels you to your full potential

. . . like your going through the motions?

. . . with conviction and against any odds

. . . created from your own standards and rules

. . . of excitement, empowerment and ease

How vast is your journey ahead? With me now, I’d like to step a thousand ahead of my time… But let us first talk about the crisis we or others might have been going through before disclosing any of our potentials.

 

When life starts to get complicated, how do we deal about it? How do we face and accept the challenge? The truth is, men and women's journey during the midlife ages passed through, in different ways with different challenges and different needs. Unlike single individual, married people tend to have imminent impact with each other. The pressure is otherwise inevitable. As a matter of fact, the historical aspect at which we formally enter “middle age” is of little importance. What’s much more intriguing are the psychological changes thought to accompany with it. Most people believed that it's a genuine psychiatric phenomenon usually takes place between ages 40-60 but there are instances not later than 32 arise.

This life situation does not happen in just a blink. It always takes place randomly in the context of our relationship. On the immense social level there are developmental points for life's experiences, our own expectation of happiness, ambition or even greed for success. But no matter where or when you started your journey, most of us end up in an unknown territory. Our fate seems to have been controlled or is somewhat coloured by the reactions of our partners and peers in life. Whether you plan it together, silently comply, support each other, your partner's midlife crisis becomes yours.

We often feel stuck in a dark unknown place without options. I have observed, however, as we slowly assimilate the casualty and re-define ourselves and our future in matters we could never have imagined. There are times in life that we might need a life coach, because no matter how much sane we are there will always be times in life when we are not capable of thinking correctly and decide the right things for ourselves.

 

How do we resolve this crucial battle? Most data reveal that this group of adults reformulate their goals in the wake of such life analysis, approaching more towards maintenance of essential goals, holding things on their right status that would safeguard their future rather than setting their sights for new unsettled dreams and aspirations. It is rather up to us to adapt or create new approach or new philosophy for the world. We can give it all and developed a slouch at the same time. It offers an emotionally defensive feeling against anxieties and distress tied to unrealizable ambitions.

 

The response of the people around us, as well as the use of outside resources can be of great help and reduce the chances of getting lost or of traveling alone. As I'm always saying, "no one has the power in his hand that could make his life perfect. Life is just a matter of age and time." So "live your yes!" You and I! Live a life that fires you up and fuels you to your full potential!

Single Mother's Dilemma

Being a single mother is a tough responsibility. By all means, I respect the fact that if I haven’t lived my life this way, then I could not imagine it would be impossible for me to understand what others have been through as a single parent. Or maybe, what could I be without a psychotherapy? When I need it and not have it?



Could you be one of those people who would consider that being a single mother is the toughest job in today's modern society? I have asked a few single moms about their views of their own dilemma's. Most of them have replied the same: considering the fact that their children will never have the chance to cherish the fun and enjoy what having both parents home feels like.

I apologize to inhabit this kind of topic. Single people may have problems but single mom with children has even more. My point is that, I want to acknowledge every determination that confides with this astonishing situation. And not to exclude myself, I want to take responsibility for my role of adding to the list of single mothers. I have four kids with one man, that I became single upon his death. Sometimes I just thought, maybe it's an impression of my children to have that disappointment that their father did not make it this far... And it would be redundant to think that they have been longing and expecting someone to care of them, at least.

I have been a single mom for about 4 1/2 years now. Good thing I did not resort to seek the help of health specialist. I thought it sometimes that it would be good for me to have a psychotherapy. My depression did not progress. I have accepted His will and my fate. I have blamed no one. I have to stand firm that I realized I should be hard to the extent of being a brainy heartless. Walking on the path of no return is what I usually pursue for myself... Well in fact, and I’m thinking and considering this myself, there are those women who become more aggressive dating multiple men due to the fact that most men are unwilling to give their commitment.... A single mother's dilemma? Yes... Why do you think a women should remain faithful and loyal with those kind of people? Should women put all their luck in one man's casket when they are full aware that this man does not want to commit? Should they divert to the proposal of other men to retain their options open?

I have no intention to judge anyone but I am having a hard time considering this one. Let us not add to any obvious and rather unfavorable traits as undesirable human entity if we may consider it that way. Both men and women should be responsible for their own actions. This era has given us the impression that we do not have the same opportunities as other people might be. It would be best to counter this fanciful intimation by giving each other loving and understanding support, especially our children.

The recently demanding change in the society has made me uplift more of my spirit. I realized I have to work harder and continue to compensate further for the sake of my children that they can have a better fighting chance for survival. That, is my legacy to my children.